I recently heard a tale of horror.
A family goes to a beach resort. Their 21 years old boy, decides to go out with some friends. When he doesn’t arrive on time the father calls, and a friend picks up. Says he is asleep, not to worry he will come in on time for the flight back home. Come morning, again a friend picks up and says he is a bit unwell, will take the next flight home. The father leaves for hometown. Lands, calls once again and friend says, “ Sorry uncle, your son is dead!!”
Overdose? I don’t know!
Every body has a different physical and internal structure. The same dose, which relaxes your friend, could be lethal for you!
When I heard this I was shocked. But soon got over it and went to bed. The story shot through my head once more and I got up panicking. My kids were 24 hours away. Alone. Left to their own devices – with pot and molly taking acquaintances all around them.
My niece and nephew are at a vulnerable phase of life. The younger ones, are too cute for their own good!
I wanted to immediately, wrap them all up in cotton wool. Then – in a layer of bubble paper. And finally corset them in a blanket and dump them in my largest closet.
I want to keep them safe. Hidden and away from the forbidden.
Distanced from trauma. Safe from harm.
I don’t want their hearts breaking, or their legs for that matter.
I would like them cocooned and nestled, in a comforting loving atmosphere.
Fear should never touch them.
But that’s not possible. And that’s not what I really want!
I want broken legs and hearts. I want thorns in their feet and thorns by their side when they get out of the protective shadows of their parents. They need fears and scares. They need to be tempted and learn to resist it. They need to go hungry once in a while. They need to live.
They have to face life. With all it’s little jagged ends.
Fear should produce fight and not flight.
Sweat will build their personality, and scars – character.
Heartbreaks will make them softer and choosier.
Hunger will teach them to be frugal. It might even teach them to cook !!
Overcoming trauma will help strengthen them.
A broken leg will teach my babies a lesson.
Failures will beget success and arrogance will beget failure.
Pride will come before fall, and happiness after sadness.
Some temptations will be yielded to, while some will be rejected. Each choice will teach them something.
And while they go through their turmoil and triumphs, they need to know they have parents (and uncles and aunts) who will hold their hands as well as cheer for them.